Let's be real...

I've been reading a book called Present Over Perfect. It is so good and so needed in this season of life I am in.  The chapter I am on right now talks about the importance of being honest and expressing your needs or your concerns without feeling guilt or attaching your emotions to someone else's response. There is so much freedom in that. It might be hard at first, because it is so much easier to bury your feelings away and not express to people what might be bothering you or expressing what you need. That can be rooted out of fear of how the other person might respond, fear of it feeling awkward, and so on. But as you begin to express your feelings, it gets easier and a lot less awkward. You start to feel so much freedom because it is no longer about feeling like you need to make everyone around you feel comfortable and you no longer have to attach your emotions to a persons response. Once you start this process, there is so much freedom and such a huge burden is lifted. Not only that, but people around you start to see something different and they want that. When people see that it is okay to express your feelings and that you won't be hurt or upset based on their response, they begin to feel that they can do the same thing. Those awkward conversations turn into important conversations that really aren't awkward at all. It is okay to express out loud what you are thinking, what you need, or what might be bothering you. No matter what it is, you have the freedom to express your feelings and not attach your emotions onto another persons response. You have the freedom to choose, to say yes or no, and to just have freedom through honesty. And if people don't like that you're being honest, that's fine but I'd probably not be around them too much. You want people that are going to love that you are willing to be honest and honor that about you.. That are going to be just as honest with you so that you can grow together and grow from each other.